The Secret of Having

Picture this: you're sitting at a café overlooking Italy's stunning Lake Como. You order an espresso, and immediately your mind races to the bill. The pleasure of the moment vanishes as anxiety takes over. This small scene reveals the invisible barrier that keeps most people from wealth—not lack of money, but the wrong emotional relationship with spending. Fear whispers: "What if I can't pay? What if it never comes back?" That fear creates tension, turning even ordinary purchases into moments of loss. Now imagine yourself back at that Lake Como café. When the bill arrives, instead of wincing, you think: "I'm going to pay this anyway, and I have the means to do so. I can simply enjoy this moment." That shift in emotion changes everything. What once felt like loss becomes a reminder of what you already have. This is the essence of Having—a practice discovered through Suh Yoon Lee's analysis of over 100,000 wealthy individuals across three decades. Having means fully and abundantly feeling what you already possess at the moment of spending. It carries comfort, gratitude for the process that brought money to you, and trust that it will circulate back again.

Having reveals itself as the fastest and most efficient path to wealth—enabling you to attract greater abundance with the same effort through the simple power of feeling. Where others struggle against resistance, Having allows you to flow naturally toward prosperity, guided entirely by your own emotional compass. At its essence, Having is the feeling of comfort—the ease that comes when money is no longer seen as disappearing, but as circulating. Comfort is quiet trust: that what leaves will return, that the flow is already in motion, and that you are secure within it. It is gratitude for the path by which money arrived, and assurance that you are worthy of enjoying what it provides. When you spend from this state, fear dissolves. You no longer tense at the thought of loss, nor calculate anxiously about what will come back. Instead, every purchase becomes proof that you already have enough—that abundance is here, now. In this way, comfort transforms money from a fearful transaction into a living current of fortune, affirming with each exchange that you are already rich.